Our lives are full of decisions to make. From the small decisions of our daily life to the more complex and life changing decisions.
When we realize that we need to make a decision in a situation it is essential to clarify and analyze the problems about decision we must make, and the investment in terms of commitment, effort and time that we are ready to bring in it. This first step is fundamental. On broad view this phase coincides with the goal setting activity, that is the step during which we practice brainstorming to skim between our random and makeshift desires and we individuate what we really want according to a specific method.
In The Paradox of Choice, psychologist Barry Schwartz argues that too much choice can lead not just to paralysis, but also to unhappiness, anxiety, and stress. He advocates for a system of “choos[ing] when to choose,” which requires prioritizing choices and focusing on only the ones that are truly important. Less important decisions don’t deserve such careful thought.
Goal Setting is just the first step in a process of personal development, but after this we have to start to bring our goals in the reality and to fo the decision making become and essential skill to develop and practice in our daily life.
Making good decisions requires us to balance the intuitive and emotional inner forces with rationality. Decision making can be a mix of analytical and conscious processes and individual insights, using a disciplined analysis methodology or an intuitive decision to instantly trigger a response to an emerging reality.
After that we have identified S.M.A.R.T Goals, chunk goals into Small, Manageable Steps that are Specifically Defined and that can be Measured coincides with the moment during which we have the opportunity to collect more informations about how to realize each step and to reflect about the pros and cons in each step. For example If you desire to change some of your unhealthy habits start one new behavior at a time. Unhealthy habits develop over the course of time, so replacing unhealthy behaviors with healthy ones requires time. Many people run into problems and a deep sense of uncertainty when they try to change too much and too fast in their life. To create successful results, focus on one goal or change at a time.
Always Develop Alternatives
In order not to feel stuck in the life and to lose motivation during the realization of a project, a goal or a life change, don’t force or fix yourself into the problem (or worse, many problems) but be involved to find alternatives that can move energy in positive around the problem in the direction of the envisioned solution.
Select alternatives and make decisions, based on what is best in this step, always keeping the final goal in mind. Focus gives us direction working on our unconscious beliefs and naturally shaping our behaviors in the direction of a solution. This also means be flexible, to develop problem solving skills and to implement solutions during the process of each realization.
Understand, evaluate and generate cause and effect for each option but once that you have made a decision don’t procrastinate.
Not making timely decisions only gives you less time and less power to be effective.
Whenever you find yourself thinking about options when it would be time to take an action probably you have not spent enough time understanding or analyzing your options and the related consequences or you are blocked by conscious or unconscious fears.
When you notice that you are procrastinating after that you have made a decision take in consideration that at least one of the above mentioned causes are blocking your action.
Just One Last Advise
Don’t discuss your decisions with someone else after that you have made one and you are committed to take action.
Fears are contagious. Don’t permit that other people points of view can block your actions after that your goals or the alternatives emerged in the decision making process are clear in your mind and neither go back on your schedule “jumping off the bridge just because your friend is doing it’. Always use your own Inner compass: given a determined goal two people may make opposing decisions about how to yake action and realize it.
Author: Cristina Capucci